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2 Self-Confidence boosters for women.

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If that voice in the back of your head is getting in the way of releasing your creativity out in the world, this is for you.

If you’re dealing with self esteem issues around whatever you’re doing in life or business, this is for you.

Or if you’re struggling with any hint of personal brand anxiety, this is for you!

(PS Yes. Indeedo. Those are my red toenails up at the top!)

OK. I’m writing about self confidence, creative issues, self esteem and general anxiety and, of course, how to get the work you love to do – out there in the world. It’s all about how we can challenge ourselves every day so nothing – absolutely nada – will get in the way, and stop us. Of course, I happen to love examining this, looking at this … because it’s something I struggle with and deal with. Constantly. Believe. Me. It. is. true.


You might already know about the American marketing genius, entrepreneur and author Seth Godin. He often talks about: Go. Make things happen. Dare to Ship. Sounds easy enough. (Check him out: sethgodin.com/sg/)

Well, the expression Dare to Ship comes from Steve Jobs who talked about ‘real artists ship’ at an off-site retreat in Carmel, California in January 1983. In fact, Jobs also talked about ‘it’s better to be a pirate than join the navy.‘ These expressions were meant to set the tone for the meeting, clearly. They also reveal much about Job’s mindset, intention and what made him tick. For sure.

Dare to Ship has always struck a chord with me. Because, believe me, I can have a tough time getting things out in the world. But today I’m wearing the hat of Brand Provocateur, and keen to offer a few challenges –  they certainly work for me. So see if these will help boost your self confidence and allow your creativity out into the world…

Challenge #1: Dare to ship

(Note: When Godin talks about artists, he is talking about everyone. Absolutely everyone.)

In his book Linchpin, Seth Godin urges all artists to push past their fear and resistance and just “ship.” Get the job done. Because if you have something to say, it needs to be shipped. If not, your creativity – ideas, message, products, services – are not being landress3shared with the world. And that means, of course, your creativity is being wasted. (Not a good feeling.)

Please Note: If you’re shipping out and it feels too easy, it’s not considered shipping. You need to push yourself and get outside your comfort zone. (So. Know that feeling? So. What are you going to ship today?)

OMG. What’s that voice you’re hearing in the back of your head? Or the one sitting on your shoulder! Let’s face it, most of us (no, all of us) experience a desire to do something – plan something, launch something, finish something – but something gets in the way, right? Resistance gets in the way. The fear of not getting it perfect. Not getting it right. Or, worse. What will people say?

The one way to overcome that resistance? Ah ha… we’re moving onto the second challenge.

Challenge #2: Identify & defeat the resistance

Resistance is the enemy within. Do you know best-selling author Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art, Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battle? In his book, Pressfield says:

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”

I’m going to quote directly from Pressfield’s chapter, Defining the Enemy, listing his first 10 pointers. (Pressfield’s words are in bold.) FYI This makes so much sense to me. Because guess what? Almost every day, I have a chat with my Resistance. We work out a couple of things. Negotiate. Just so I can move forward on my business as well as my creativity, producing my work Black Line Crazy — and other things, along the way. Sound crazy? Well, I do whatever it takes. Take a look…


1. Resistance is Invisible The first thing to remember is that your Resistance has a job to do.Clearly, that job is to stop you from doing your work and whatever truly drives you. Understand that and do the job — anyway.

2. Resistance is Internal You can’t fool yourself into thinking Resistance comes from the outside. It’s the enemy within. FYI You can’t blame anyone else here.

3. Resistance is Insidious Your Resistance is seductive, fickle. It will do whatever it takes to trick you into not doing your work.

4. Resistance is Implacable It has one job to do: To get in the way of what you need to do.

5. Resistance is Impersonal Never forget for a minute that Resistance is not out to get you personally. It just has that job to do. (It’s just in its nature, so to speak.)

6. Resistance is Infallible
 Again, its job is to get in the way of whatever calling or action you most desire. It’s that simple.

7. Resistance is Universal Remember everyone struggles with Resistance. You’re not the only one.

8. Resistance Never Sleeps In a nutshell, you’ll never see the back of Resistance. That fear is here to stay.

9. Resistance Plays for Keeps Resistance plays dirty. Our most unique and priceless gift is its most favorite target. Nasty business.

10. Resistance is Fueled By Fear Resistance is not fueled by its own rocket fuel. It comes from one source: You.

The best way to embrace your creativity and feel confident? Examine your resistance. (Check out Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art (Grand Central Publishing.) Then, ship.

Wishing you mindfully shipping….



  1. Van

    December 8th, 2014 at 10:37 pm

    Thanks Jenn — thrilled to see what you are doing on stitcharama.com GO GIRL xx

  2. Jenn

    December 3rd, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    Well then, ok — I’m daring myself to ship, Van. And you can BET it’s wayyyyyyyyyyyy far out of my comfort zone. Ouchy. Good. Thanks for this great post!

  3. Mary van de Wiel

    December 2nd, 2014 at 11:27 pm

    Thanks Claudine! you’re absolutely right. This is all about seeing how far we can get OUT of our comfort zone, for sure.
    Nothing like the journey of self exploration, right?! lovely to connect with you!

  4. Claudine

    November 30th, 2014 at 8:34 pm

    A great post! I think the more you challenge yourself and make yourself feel uncomfortable, the greater you stretch yourself beyond those self drawn boundaries. Only through pushing yourself can you really expect to grow. x